Happiness.

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I am the haphazard blogger and welcome to my blog.

Today, here in this blog entry I would like to share something that I have learnt the hard way and how I wish someone would have told this earlier. So our main focus for today is the idea of happiness. What does it mean? Where does it come from? Is it long lasting? Why is this addicting? And many more such questions.

Lets get directly to the point, one can never be happy forever. There I said it and its true, happiness isn’t long lasting in nature and it won’t last forever. If you are always happy then either you are just trying to show that you are happy because being sad is too much for you or there is something wrong, then something isn’t adding up.

To prove my point here I would like to give you guys a very old but very true example the yin-yang sign.

It is an old Chinese philosophy that describes how seemingly opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another. Most people think it basically is a balance of both the good and the bad in life. 

There is nothing wrong if you are sad or angry, you tell me if you won’t know how it feels to feel something other than happiness will you ever know the real meaning of happiness? 

I used to think something is wrong with me because I would get sad and angry and look at everyone else around me who are happy, making myself feel even more sad. TBH I would take up all the blame on myself not only for my sadness or anger but also for others and then fell into depression. I would not allow myself to be happy I would not eat properly I lost so much weight because of depression. I lost friends, I would not share how I felt with others I would just keep it bundled up inside me.

Please don’t do that, please don’t suffer like that, there is nothing wrong with you. It is okay to be sad or angry or if someone is sad or angry. It is not as big as it is in your mind. Talk to someone if you can’t let it go, write it down and burn it up and move on from it, go for a walk clear your head listen your favourite music but just try and get past it ad believe me you can.

Lets talk a little bit about depression, to me depression is a black hole which even while writing about it, it scares the hell out of me I don’t want to be there, I don’t like how it feels I don’t like how a completely different version of me comes and stares me right in the eye and tells me that I am nothing. It is a black hole full of negativity and there is no one there, only me sitting alone with all the negative thoughts that might as well reach the level where I would think that killing myself is the only option left, the air is so thick that it leads me to have panic attacks and that is not something I can handle at least on m own. We can’t really stop ourselves before falling into that hole, and completely understanding as to what is going on with us but there’s only one thing that I want to say to you, you will get through this just accept that. Basically we don’t have any other option other than accepting the fact that it happened and that you’ll get through it, and acceptance is the first step towards defeating the demon of depression and anxiety. And as I said earlier it is okay not to be happy always and it is okay not to be sad always either, everything comes in phases and it does so for some reason. 

Both happiness and sadness won’t last forever thats for sure, I know I am making both positive and negative statements in one but let that sentence sink in. Take that positively,  every time you are sad, angry or another negative feeling is eating you up, just think, ‘oh well this is not going to last forever, I am going to be happy again’ and appreciate even the smallest of the smallest and the biggest of the biggest opportunity that you get to be happy recognise those moments. Every time negativity knocks on your door open the door and stand tall and face it with every ounce of positivity you have in yourself.

Yes happiness won’t last forever too but don’t you think thats what makes us crave it even more? All I want for you is to know that this is not the end. This not where you stop. This is where you fight and you are not alone. Yes you are not alone, think how many people would be going through the same or even worse than what you are going through (And don’t be so full of yourself and say this is the worst that can happened to anyone.)

So to sum it all up, happiness and sadness are not going to last forever, if you are too happy or too sad then something is wrong and the balance is not there. Remind yourself that you are in complete and utter control even when you are at your lowest points. Remember to have positivity on blast and knock the negativity out of your life.

That is it for today. 🙂

Thank you so much for reading and i hope to see you again.

Keep smiling and don’t forget you are stronger than you think you are.

xx

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Welcome To My Blog!!

Hey!

My name is Kalyani and I have been meaning to start a blog since a very long time now and I just didn’t know where to start and what to write and what to do in general, but right now it just feels right I feel like I am ready to start this new adventure of my life. And to start I wanna quote from one of my favourite books…

“When I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.” 

Paulo Coelho (Eleven Minutes)

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